“We all have secrets, alter egos, and live double lives. Coming Out Like a Porn Star is an incredibly rich and moving narrative of an experience we can all relate to. We can learn something from all of the authors.”
— Belle Knox, ‘The Duke Porn Star”

“This revealing, moving, and often surprising collection lets you go deep inside the lives of generations of porn stars and explicit performers. It’s an absolute must-read for anyone interested in sex industry politics, sex-positive culture, and porn studies––and for anyone whose friend, lover, or family member has taken their pants off in front of a camera. One after the other, these memoirs add up to a powerful, if ironic, conclusion: Porn stigma is the biggest problem many adult performers face, and it is at least as likely to come from our feminist moms as from prudish conservatives. Once you’ve heard the clear, articulate voices of these porn stars, you’ll never look at a sex movie, or the people who make it happen, the same way again.”
— Carol Queen, PhD Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture 

“A one-of-a-kind collection with perspectives from a terrific mix of adult entertainment professionals, COMING OUT LIKE A PORN STAR is a timely, insightful read that will change perceptions about an industry so often misunderstood.”
— Dan Miller, XBIZ™

“What are the performers like?” “What do their parents say?” After over a decade researching all aspects of adult entertainment, these sorts of questions remain among those most frequently raised by folks living and working outside the industry. Coming Out Like a Porn Star provides a platform for a diverse array of adult performers to tell their own stories. Jiz Lee has spearheaded a compelling and heartfelt collection – one that engages wider society’s fascination with porn performers in order to humanize, edify, and enlighten.
— Dr. Chauntelle Tibbals, Author of Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment

“Intimates the fascinating story of adult performers who’ve ‘come out’.”
–  Jayme Waxman, Playgirl Magazine June 2015

“Frank and decidedly humorous, this collection takes the stereotypical narrative of what it means to be a porn star and puts it out of its misery. Without a doubt, this is the most honest, diverse and innately human take on the art form we call porn I’ve ever read. Stories like these have the power to change minds, shatter conventions and completely reframe the entire genre of porn.”
–  Jerome Stuart Nichols, sex & wellness coach, creator of

“Coming out is never a straightforward process. Lee’s collection of essays offers a nuanced, heartfelt, and incredibly honest look at what it means to come to terms with a highly public, incredibly sexual identity within the bounds of one’s private life.”
–  Lux Alptraum, former editor/publisher,

“Finally – a collection of essays bold enough to embrace – and express – the complexities and contradictions of performing sex. With uncompromising thought and lucid prose, Lee and fellow contributors rewrite the public record.”
–  Nichi Hodgson, author of Bound To You

“A manifesto, a reclamation by Lee of the role of porn as a positive artistic form.”
– Rachel Kramer Bussel,

Coming Out Like a Porn Star fundamentally changes the cultural conversation about porn performers. Never before have adult performers been given the space to talk about coming to terms with what they’re doing with their bodies, their careers, and their lives. It is in this space that we find out they’re neither victim nor villain; instead we encounter people whose inner strength and thoughtful, well-articulated sense of self can teach us a thing or two about how we can better relate to our loved ones, ourselves, and society at large.”
– Violet Blue, journalist and author of The Smart Girl’s Guide to Privacy

“Incredible, revolutionary, awesome… it will change a fuckton of conversations that needed to be changed like yesterday.”
– Violet Blue,

In the Press (Selected Links)

Tackling stigma with gender queer pornstar Jiz Lee, Huck Magazine
‘Coming Out Like a Porn Star’ Book Readings Scheduled, XBiz Magazine
Adult Stars ‘Come Out’ With Jiz Lee for L.A. Readings, AVN Magazine
Book Review: Coming out like a porn star, Porn Studies Journal
Two Excerpts From Coming Out Like A Porn Star, Tits and Sass
Mini-Interview Project #52: Lauren Wissot in Conversation with Stoya, The Rumpus
Lorelei Lee, James Darling and Milcah Halili on Coming Out Like a Porn Star, Sex Out Loud
Coming Out Like a Porn Star, HUSTLER Magazine April 2016
Coming Out Like a Porn Star, Oh Joy Sex Toy
Coming Out Like a Porn Star: collected memoirs of sex workers, BoingBoing
SHARK’S TEETH, an excerpt from Coming Out Like a Porn Star, The Rumpus
Coming out like a porn star, ABC Australia
Coming out, coming hard: An excerpt from ‘Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection and Privacy’, Archer Magazine
Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Adult performers on facing prejudice in one of the most controversial occupations, The Independent
How I told my parents I’m a porn star, NY Post
How I told my parents I was a porn star, Mirror UK
Book Review: Coming Out Like A Porn Star, The Unlaced Librarian
Review: Jiz Lee’s “Coming Out Like a Porn Star”, Medium
Een ode aan feministische porno, OneWorld Dutch
Gender Fuck, New Inquiry
La abuelita de Stoya también ama la pornografía, Vice Spanish
Cómo decirle a tus padres que eres una estrella porno, Vice Spanish
La complicada vida social de una ‘porn star’, PlayGround
The Time I Told My Grandmother I’ve Been Using Her Name to Make Porno, Vice
How to Tell Your Parents You’re a Porn Star, Vice
How I Earned My Porn Star Name, Buzzfeed
What it’s really like working in the porn industry, Dazed Magazine
Best Sex Work Books of 2015, Reason Magazine
Best Sex Positive Books from 2015, BUSTLE
Un libro recopila cómo actrices porno les contaron a sus padres a qué se dedican, Clarin
Wie du deinen Eltern beichtest, dass du in Pornos mitspielst, Vice (German)
Jiz Lee’s ‘Coming Out Like a Porn Star’ Is Released, XBiz Magazine
“How to Come Out Like a Porn Star”: A sex-industry veteran shares advice on the risks and rewards, SALON

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